It is natural for us to have problems and disagreements with our parents, wheither we are young and old. Different solutions we may have to different problems can brew issues and resentment between child and parent. Differing points of view can cause family to split apart or ignore each other, both too deep in what you want concerning this or how you want this to work, you fail to try searching for the reasoning behind what the other is trying to put forward.
As people, we all tend to only really, naturally, only focus on the hurt caused onto us or the pain we felt ourselves, that we fail to look at what are actions may have impacted another, only thinking of the affect that other person’s actions may have had on you. Differences commonly can divide people, but sometimes it can bring people together. Recognizing why the other person may feel a certain way can cause the other person to try recognizing why you feel a certain way. Understanding is always key.
In the case of parent and child, you may feel you are completely different people, like that you are so different from each other that you may never agree in anything. But when you put yourself aside just a moment to delve deep in how the other person feels, you then have clarity in the factors contributing to the reasoning of the other person. Think of moments when you both were on good terms, and what made you love that person. Overflowing yourself with love for others will always overcome the other negative factors.
Your parents may not understand you for specific factors, what your dreams are, why you do what you do, why you are who you are. You may not understand your parents in what they do, in their strictness, or in the way you may feel pressure from them. This is when you know you need to devote yourself to understanding the other, to really asking and diving deep to the reasoning of your parent or you in how they reached a specific decision. Reach out again. Just do it. Weather it goes bad or good know its of greatest strength to reach out when it may feel so hard. Anger is blind.
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Stay strong, and remember to never let anything stop you!
